A different Father's Day

Yesterday we had the "Cedar" family for dinner.  It was hectic but it was fun.  Grandpa received many favorite food items (including Hawaiian Sun samples from Jay and family). A cute "Home Depot" apron from John complete with Jim written on it and some Asian mix.  Dave and Dani packed a box titled "Mr. Home Depot" with favorites like pretzels and mustard and a Mtn Dew (oh and also a can of Dap - "a little Dap will do ya" has been a current comment while working in the shop.  Amy had a cute picture of herself and her Dad that she made on a board that said I love you.  Very creative gifts that took some time and thought.and I am sure he appreciated it. 
I guess all we "old" people really want at this stage of our lives is just to be remembered and occasionally thanked.  Life is hard and having kids is a lot of work.  We don't really need anything of material value (although it is often appreciated) but a phone call or a card (yes Laura and Jim and families both saw that cards were sent) is all we are hoping for.  I reflect at the days when my Dad was alive and I just didn't take the time to write or call like I should have.  I am sure that hurt him far more than I realized then.  He was always so good to us and I know he did his best to see that we were taken care of.  Many a time I would get something in the mail from him that would have some money in it that would come at a great time.  It was a blessing beyond what I realized at the time.  Not to say I didn't appreciate it, just that it was his way of expressing his love and that I don't think I appreciated as much as I should have.  He was a great dad and I wish I could have just been more caring to him.
The odd thing today was that in John and Jay's ward (see John's blog) the High Council rep spoke on Divorce and said many insensitive tings about divorce.  In today's world where families are surrounded by those going through divorce it ruffles some of my feathers to have someone over the pulpit be so insensitive toward those who have been victims.  To think that all of the pain and struggle John has gone through this year to pick up the pieces after his divorce makes me want to lash out.  Perhaps he was just trying to help those contemplating divorce but sadly there were probably many in his congregation who have been the ones left hanging and who struggle everyday being a single parent.  In John's situation, I don't know what is the best answer when divorce is contemplated... I know that I came from parents who were both divorced and much better in their second marriages.  They provided a good home for us... sadly I know that both of my brothers suffered from my mom's divorce but other factors can figure in there as well - her first husband was an alcoholic among other things...
So I am not getting on a boxtop about divorce but I do feel that it was sad that on a day celebrating fathers my son who is a great father and who struggles with his insecurities about how well he is doing, had to be blasted about a circumstance he had no control over...  sorry John.
Well that is all for now.  Speaking of John, I am going to pack up his kitchen as he will be moving around the corner next to Jay and Sara in the next couple of weeks.  Not enough that we have this project at the LBH but both he and Jim and I have also moved in the interim... 
One more thing:  Happy Father's Day to my husband who is a great and loving man.  I am glad we have been together these many years.  He has provided me with a good and an adventurous life!