I have been writing a Tender Mercies account and want to add this to my blog...
August 20, 2013
I am going to try to
write down some of the things happening that I recognize as Tender
Mercies… I feel so blessed but
often I forget to recognize the reasons why. So here goes…
1. Today
Ellie Grover’s Sister, Janet, came into the Washington CafĂ©. I was able to talk to her and
reminisce about Ellie and learn some things about the kids and how they are
doing. Ellie was my dear friend –
a kindred spirit. She passed away
about 18 years ago but I still remember her as if it were yesterday. A true blessing in my life and I was
glad to remember her with her dear sister.
2. Also
Mike and Liana were here for a couple of days and it was such a joy to be with
them. Mike is such a dear soul and
he tries so hard to do thoughtful things, not just for Jim and me but for all
of his siblings. They went all the
way to Tremonton to see Laura and family, then to Cedar to see John, Jay, and
Dave and families, then down here to Washington to visit with Amy and us and
finally will go see Jim Clo and kids before heading up to Carson. Was delightful to spend time with them.
August 21, 2013
Today Peter
called. I guess he was on his way
home from work. What a special
gift that was. I don’t talk often
with Pete anymore and of course I haven’t seen him or his family since last
Thanksgiving so this was such a blessing to me to spend a few minutes on the
phone with him. He also sent a
picture of Ollie who had met him at the car… I guess we have another little
handsome man in our family!
August 25, 2013
Well, I haven’t been
too good about writing my Tender Mercies this week like I had hoped. But I am going to go back a few days
and share some thoughts that I forgot to write down.
1. On Tuesday night (Aug. 20th) we
served our first night on the Tuesday, late shift at the temple. It was a delight and both Jim and I
felt so welcomed. Our new shift
coordinators for that night are the Rackers. They were warm and welcoming. It was not like going the first time on Saturday – we think
that is because we were prepared and had confidence so we were open to the
other ordinance workers and were not apprehensive or doubtful about being
there... we felt we belonged. We
also felt like they were very, very nice people and went out of their way to
say hello.
2. Since
Tuesday, we served again on Friday night at the temple. It was so full and evidentally they set
a record for endowments on a shift of over 700 endowments. However, I
understand that Saturday mid-shift did over 900 so the record was broken
again. The temple is so busy right
now because we are closing for the next 3 weeks but also because of the new
film. The new film is outstanding
and full of emotion. I had the
thought that I wish some youth who might be struggling with their testimonies
could see Satan as we see him in this film. He is cunning and changeable. He wins over Eve by being convincing and then turns on her
immediately after she has partaken of the fruit. The portrayal is just like Satan really is and you can
easily recognize that you would not want to spend any time with him – that you
would naturally want to choose the right.
3. Saturday
we went to the Bear Paw and had breakfast. It gave us some good ideas for serving breakfast when we
move the restaurant to De-De’s space.
We know we want to have fresh-squeezed orange and grapefruit juice. We also want fresh hash browns like
they served at the Bear Paw. I am
also thinking that their Eggs Benedict were wonderful and they used tomatoes on
them. Also would like to serve our
French toast but maybe with a twist like with Cinnamon toast or rolls like they
have at Kneaders and the Kneaders syrup.
Also, Laura mentioned to me about some delicious cinnamon rolls that she
just made without yeast, which I want to try as well. Jim made some gingerbread with vanilla cream sauce tonight
which was delicious and several weeks ago he made it with lemon sauce – we
could offer both of those and perhaps bread pudding with vanilla sauce
too. That would of course be for
dinner dessert. Why do I call this a tender mercy- hey good food is
always a tender mercy!
4. Today
is Sunday. We attended our
meetings and then interviewed with Bishop Lee for a calling as Shepherds for
the 19-30 year olds that have been lost on the records… We are looking forward to it. It is always a stretch to deal with
in-actives but our hope is to encourage them to attend their meetings whether
they are in the YSA ward or in the family ward.
5. One
more thing – the Stake RS had a fireside tonight. Sister Bundy is the Stake RS President – she is in the
Washington 1st ward. I
was delighted to note that she used her Presidency to deliver the talks for the
firesides as well as giving a wonderful address herself. I have recently been reading Sheri
Dew’s book, No Doubt About It, and recognized a number of comments that came
from that book. It made me laugh
because I have thought to myself while reading the book that if I had to give a
talk any time in the future I would go to that book and use it. Well she beat me to it! It was a good meeting and another thing
I noticed was that I recognized members of my new ward sitting in the audience
and although I wasn’t sitting by them, I felt like I belonged to them and that
was a good feeling.
6. One
last thing, I think we have a great Bishop… Phillip Lee. He is a humble and kind man and I have
enjoyed meeting with him both today and when we first moved here. He has a sweet manner and I already
know he is a great leader.
August 26, 2013
I received this note from Jim this morning… another tender
mercy for me and for (lil)Jim:
Thanks for the note Mom. I wanted to share one of my tender
mercies with you. As you remember, back in November I tried to secure Grandpa
Jim's name for his temple work, only to discover that it had been released to
the Temple file. I talked to people at the FH Library and the Temple and was
told that once it was in the Temple file, that was it--I could monitor it from
afar. I wasn't happy with the outcome, but I was motivated to find other family
members that I could make sure the work was being done for, and I identified
about 70 different people. We have been slowly working through those
names--most recently on Friday night Clayton was baptized and confirmed for 6
new Griffin relatives.
On Saturday I went to the 5:30 a.m. session to participate in an endowment (I
hadn't seen the new presentation yet), and after I came home thought I'd log
into my FamilySearch page and see what had been done with the names I'd given
to you. I noted that someone had just done a bunch of male initiatories earlier
in the week (thank you to whomever did that). I also discovered that, back in
July, Marien had inadvertently (with her mom's help) deleted the relationship
between you and your mother, and deleted Arthur Hellberg as a person. I was
able to put that back in the proper order, so that was good, too.
Well, that's a lot of background for my little miracle. I started to look for
some other names, and the available-ordinances icon was highlighted next to
Grandpa's entry. I assumed it was for his sealing to Marie, but I clicked it
anyway, and the endowment and sealing-to-parents ordinances were listed as
available. I quickly reserved them. I'm not sure what caused the change--I
looked and found several others that were still listed as reserved by the
Temple system (and didn't find any others that were previously reserved but now
released). I count it as a tender mercy. If it's OK, I'd like to do the
endowment, but thought either I could come to St. George (or one of the
brothers could do it) for his sealing, with you and Dad acting as proxies for
your grandparents.
Congrats on the new shifts. Sounds like you're busy. I was just released from
my shift on the 17th. I'll miss it, but Clorinda and I will go back after the
kids are grown up and we have time we can both commit to.
I love you.
August 27, 2013
I have just finished reading two chapters in Numbers of the
Old Testament and listening to a conference talk by Elder Oaks from the October
2006 General Conference where he talks about lifting up the heavy laden. Every day now I do this… I read 2
chapters of scripture and at least one conference talk. I have done this for at least a year. What great joy this brings me and what
an influence it has in my outlook of life. The other night, Jim mentioned to me that attending the
temple as an ordinance worker and mingling with other Brothers and Sisters
doing the same, makes him want to be a better person. I agree, and would add that my devotional time also softens
my heart and helps me want to be better and do better. This is a tender mercy. It has been available to me all my life
but I have not always taken the time to study the words of the prophets… having
my little Kindle has brought me such joy and such a desire to do and to be
better.
August 30, 2013
I believe today marked the beginning of better business at
the Washington LBH. Amy and I were
working alone (scary I know). I
ran to the store to get some vanilla and some lettuce (Costco). Upon retuning I found a busy group in
the restaurant and more coming, and coming, and coming. I am not the smarted waitress around
but I had to step up to it because Amy was cooking. We ended up having a $330 lunch which exceeds most of the
days we have had since June with usually 2 cooks an 2 waitresses… It was hectic and we were both sweating
but we pretty much made it. I
contribute this to a complimentary article in the Entertainment section of the
newspaper that a lady, who visited with her mother several days ago, wrote. Unfortunately, we did not know the
article was coming our and although we have other servers and cooks they are
all in school. Amy is hiring a
couple of fellows today which will help us get things covered and she can help
with the waitressing and serving. Anyway,
as difficult as the day was (and we made another $420 in the evening) it was
indeed a tender mercy and we hope will bring more people in daily.
August 31, 2013
I just read a great Conference talk given by M. Russell
Ballard in the October 2006 conference.
O Be Wise. He talks about
ways to direct our lives and our service in the church to be more effective
both for our own benefit and for the benefit of those we serve and work
with. Very appropriate information
including 6 steps he encouraged:
First: focus on people and principles – not on
programs
Second: be innovative (seek the
inspiration of the Spirit to solve problems in ways that will best help the
people we can serve).
Third: divide the work and delegate responsibility… there is a difference
between getting the work done and doing the work yourself.
Fourth: eliminate guilt. As mortals we simply cannot do
everything at once, therefore we must do all things “in wisdom and order.”
Fifth: we need to thoughtfully
allocate our resources of time, income and energy. No matter what your family needs are or your
responsibilities in the Church, there is no such thing as “done.” There will always be more we can do…(but
we need to be wise about how we go about doing ).
Sixth: a word to leaders about
extending responsibilities to members and especially to recent converts. Everyone needs a responsibility… What is most important in our Church
responsibilities is not the statistics that are reported or the meetings that
are held but whether or not individual people – ministered to one at a time
just as the Savior did – have been lifted and encouraged and ultimately
changed.
We must be wise with our families… wise in fulfilling our
church callings…wise with our time…wise in balancing all of our
responsibilities.
O be wise; what can I say more. (Jacob 6:12)
September 4, 2013
Continuing Jim’s Tender Mercy story connected with my Dad
So, I was able to go to the Temple yesterday for Grandpa
Jim. I thought I'd share my journal entry on my experience (though I'm not sure
it does it justice):
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I want to share an experience from today. By way of
introduction, let me share what I sent to my mom earlier this week:
Thanks for the note Mom. I wanted to share one of my tender
mercies with you. As you remember, back in November I tried to secure Grandpa Jim's
name for his temple work, only to discover that it had been released to the
Temple file. I talked to people at the FH Library and the Temple and was told
that once it was in the Temple file, that was it--I could monitor it from afar.
I wasn't happy with the outcome, but I was motivated to find other family
members that I could make sure the work was being done for, and I identified
about 70 different people. We have been slowly working through those
names--most recently on Friday night Clayton was baptized and confirmed for 6
new Griffin relatives.
On Saturday I went to the 5:30 a.m. session to participate in an
endowment (I hadn't seen the new presentation yet), and after I came home
thought I'd log into my FamilySearch page and see what had been done with the
names I'd given to you. I noted that someone had just done a bunch of male
initiatories earlier in the week (thank you to whomever did that). I also
discovered that, back in July, Marien had inadvertently (with her mom's help)
deleted the relationship between you and your mother, and deleted Arthur
Hellberg as a person. I was able to put that back in the proper order, so that
was good, too.
Well, that's a lot of background for my little miracle. I started to look for
some other names, and the available-ordinances icon was highlighted next to
Grandpa's entry. I assumed it was for his sealing to Marie, but I clicked it
anyway, and the endowment and sealing-to-parents ordinances were listed as
available. I quickly reserved them. I'm not sure what caused the change--I
looked and found several others that were still listed as reserved by the
Temple system (and didn't find any others that were previously reserved but now
released). I count it as a tender mercy. If it's OK, I'd like to do the endowment,
but thought either I could come to St. George (or one of the brothers could do
it) for his sealing, with you and Dad acting as proxies for your grandparents.
So today I went to the Temple for Day Cook and Julie
Stanley. They're both headed out on missions in the next couple of months.
Although I'd arrived in plenty of time for the 11:30 session, when I walked in
I was told that there was no room in the session and I needed to sit on the
other side--I would be waiting for the 12:30 session. This was a disheartening
result, but I went to Julie and Day and told them I was proud of them.
Surprisingly to me, several members went and pleaded my case to the 1st
Counselor in the Temple Presidency. Several minutes later, Brother Malone (who
was my shift coordinator for the last year of my shift) came and put his arm on
my shoulder. He was officiating our session, and he asked me to come and talk
with him He then told me that a "spot had come available" and that I
could go on the 11:30 session. I wasn't sure what had happened, but when it was
time for the veil, Sister Gebs came in to present at the veil. I hadn't noticed
that she wasn't in the session. She had volunteered her seat so that I could go
through, because she knew what relationship I had with those two kids. I was so
very moved by her compassion.
The session was perhaps the single most moving experience
I've ever had in the Temple. I was able to take Grandpa Jim through so he could
receive his endowment. I kept reflecting on the remarkable circumstances that
brought me to that point. I have no idea how his name ended up being released
by the temple system, but it was. I though about him throughout the session,
remembering particularly when we would visit him and Grandma Marie in their
home in San Leandro, and he would take me (and probably John and Pete) down to
the clubhouse to play shuffleboard or putt on the greens. As he grew older, we
wouldn't get out on our visits, but he was always kind and generous towards me.
I remembered how he and Grandma Marie would call each other "Mac",
and how intrigued I was by that. I love him dearly. I believe that as a result
of that relationship, the endowment session was much more personal to me. I
realized that my grandpa was going
through the Temple. At the veil I was nearly overcome with the emotion of
standing as his proxy as he conversed with the Lord. The words had remarkable
meaning to me as I realized those covenants that he was making had a direct
impact on me, personally, as his posterity. Later, in the dressing room,
Brother Malone grabbed me and (jokingly) told me that I wasn't allowed to be
emotional at the veil. He was presenting two stations away and said that he
could feel the emotion from me. I was able to share with him the miracle of
being able to be there for Grandpa Jim.
Right before Lehi is able to partake of the fruit of the
tree, he says that he was praying that the Lord "would have mercy [upon
him], according to the multitude of his tender mercies." I had not been
pleading for the tender mercies that were granted to me. I am certainly not
worthy of them, but I was truly blessed by them.
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That is all. Hope you guys are doing
well. I love you.
Jim
Wow,
this is a wonderful story and such a great blessing to me to have my Dad’s
endowment finally completed. I
have had his picture come up in my dresser and in my jewelry box and several
other places over the last year or so.
I knew this was a message to me to get this work done, but then Jim told
me that his paperwork had gone into the church system. I feel so blessed that Jim was able to
participate in this endowment and even more so because I too now realize that
my father has been given the opportunity to accept this work. I look forward to being sealed to him
and to my mother.
September 8, 2013
I am stretching hard for a tender mercy today. I know I should have one hanging on
here but I find that I have wonderful weeks of gifts like above and then I seem
to go into a hard time when I feel overwhelmed and a bit unhappy. So I am going to work at turning my
unhappiness into a positive. I
don’t know if everyone does this but I seem to. In my low periods I find that I would just like to veg and
not go anywhere or talk to anyone.
So here is the mercy – going to the temple each week forces me to do
something that I can’t get out of and therefore as I attend and complete my
calling, I am blessed. I feel
better, I feel loved, I feel accomplished and I know I am a daughter of God.
I was going to complain about being new in my ward and
watching as no one talks to me or gets excited when they see me. I hate that… but then I remembered that
today my friend Sharon talked to me and remembered that we met in the
Laundromat and had a nice visit.
She is all alone and I am sure she could use me as a friend. My neighbor Linda signaled to me and
asked me to sit by her in Relief Society and although she might not be my
choice for a best friend, she is a
very nice lady and is welcoming.
And my friend from the temple, Sandra, came and sat by us in Relief
Society and she has been so welcoming and has made sure I meet people and has
volunteered to take me to the Stake RS Conference etc.
So there you go… I might not know everyone, and some people
may not care if they know me or not, but there are certainly sisters that have
gone out of their way to be kind to the new girl on the block. Now I need to follow their lead and look for other sisters in the
same circumstance as I am.
Deuteronomy – here is another tender mercy. I am now in Deuteronomy in the Old Testament. It is a great book! It summarizes all the things Moses
dealt with as he discussed them in the earlier books but doesn’t go into all the detail! I love it and because I am also reading
the Institute manual at the same time I am learning more about some of the
things that went on with the Israelites and why. Like I was having a very hard time with the fact that the
Lord would have the Israelites kill a whole group of people including the women
and children but then studying in the manual I read that these people were
very, very evil – like unto Sodom and Gomorrah and therefore they needed to be
wiped out so that the Israelites would not be influenced by or intermarry with them. So as I was reading earlier in the Old
Testament I thought there was no answer to my questions and I prayed that I
would beable to come to terms with this… then in reading in Deuteronomy I read
about it again and then in the study guide it explained. I was grateful because I had faith that
the Lord would answer my questions and he did! Awesome.